Thursday, May 20, 2010
the pleasure of your company
I have been back for a few days from my weekend gettaway with my girlfriends and have been thinking a lot about friends. With the new "Sex and The City 2" movie about to be released (that's next Thursday, people, so get your cosmo makings together!), the topic of friendship seems everywhere. My own young daughter has been dealing with the drama and growing pains of friendship in her gradeschool world--it has been so hard and it seems to start early. Since she was very little, I have told her to be herself, that there will be people in this world that you may not get along with, or even like all that much, but it more important to be kind and loving than beautiful. Don't ever be the mean girl, try your best, and walk away if you have to. I hope it helps--I feel her pain as if it were my own. I also need to listen to my own advice from time to time.
Back to Sex and The City...I love those characters and I think everyone seems to find a little bit of themselves in one or more of them. Of course everyone seems to think they are "Carrie", but truth be told we can't all be her, now can we? ;) Miranda might be a bit boring for some, Charlotte can be prissy, and no one would ever admit they were anything like Samantha, but maybe a little combo of all four is a good thing.
I have talked with my Mom a lot this year about friendships, how mine have changed, grown, disappointed, filled my life with laughter, and been an amazing and necessary part of my existence. She told me about the people that came and went in her life for different reasons, some hers, some theirs. I was told today that friendship is a little bit like clothing, and I agree. Some of it fits perfectly and you don't even have to try, some of it doesn't over time, and its good to know when to be open to someone new or revisit someone you have known forever and appreciate them. I know people have a love/hate thing about Facebook--I joined because my reunion was being planned through it, but over time I have reconnected with several old friends, even my childhood best friend, Kathy, who I adored then and still do, even though we haven't seen each other for years. I got to meet up with a sorority sister, Laurie, on my trip to Palm Springs because she saw my post on FB, and even though its been 15 years since I had seen her it felt like last week. Thats what I'm talking about.
I think the biggest compliment I have ever received has been being told I am a good friend. I think the luckiest day I ever had was the day I married my best friend. I hope that the people in my life know that how much I love their humor (I am talking to you, Kari), and their big hearts (Ms. Kacy--) and come next week, I will be joining the crowds of girlfriends off to the movies, and will be raising my own cosmo glass--to friendship. cheers~!